suddenly miss baking! playing some stupid baking game online.. this is where the game is. got a lot of other stupid brainless games. HK Cafe, Da Pai Dong, Be My Guest, Facial House and this game Maggie’s Bakery. ya i got nothing betta to do. (i should be working on diminishing the high pile of shit on my plate) realised yesterday that i haven’t baked for so long. saw all my baking stuff crammed into the oven and missed the (chao ta) stuff i used to whip up haha. ok! i shall do that after my exams!! first thing that i’ll bake, which i’ve been thinking of for very long, would be blueberry muffins! gotta go brush up on my cookin skills also..:yum1
was playin with my neighbour’s granddaughter the other day. don’t know whether it was because i was super tired, or have i just lost interest in kids? or perhaps she was getting older and more wilful? i had to push myself to be patient with her, tolerate her and give in to her demands. basically, i wasn’t as patient as i used to be. She’s 5 years old. I’ve been playing (doesn’t this word sound weird?!) with her since she was 2. seen her grow up and talk a lot more. while i was trying to assemble some 25 piece Disney jigsaw puzzle with her the other day, she suddenly told me very calmly, “I have a boyfriend! I love him! I’m going to marry him!” Clearly I was shocked. It might be just one of those fun things that kiddies say, in their fun games, in their haste to be grown up, in their desire to mimic what they see on television. So I asked, “Have you told your mummy?” She said, “No, why should I?” Well, the paranoid me suddenly jumped light years ahead and thought, if she’s gonna keep stuff from her mummy now, what would happen when she becomes a teenage? So I told her, “To get married is a big thing, that’s why you should tell your mummy.” As little kids are, she ignored me after that.
After a while, she dropped another bombshell, “I kissed him on the cheek!” harlow, she’s 5 only. I know when some of us girls were young, we were probably taught to “kiss aunty on the cheek then aunty will give you sweet” or “kiss uncle goodbye before we leave”. that kinda thing. Even now, when we play with our own nieces/nephews/cousins, we tell them to give flying kiss goodbye or to kiss us on the cheek for fun. But to kiss some little boy from her church kindergarden at this age because she “loves him” was a little too much for me to bear. I’m just paranoid and over-protective. Maybe I never did such things when I was young. Maybe it’s just a kiddy thing and she didn’t really do it. Maybe they did it during a game in class or something. Maybe it’s all those news reports we read these days about how the teenagers are so open nowadays. If that wasn’t enough, she added a minute later, “I kissed him on the mouth also!” :shake: ON THE MOUTH?! Suddenly I was at a loss. Here is a young impressionable girl, how was I to explain to her that you can’t just anyhow kiss someone? So I said, “You should only kiss someone who is related to you, like your mummy or your ah gong.” Again, she didn’t really care about what I said. I was wondering if I should question her further or ask her mother whether she was aware that her daughter had a boyfriend at school. Sometimes kids tend to tell everyone who would listen to them that they have a boyfriend. If she told her own mother that, then I wouldn’t worry too much. But I didn’t.
Then she was playing with my (short) skirt. She was pulling it sideways and because it was a short skirt, it tended to bunch-up/fly-up at the front, the way skirts do when the wind blows. So I pushed my skirt down and told her she can’t do that. She asked why. I tried to tell her that she should not let anyone see under her skirt. Was I being over-protective and paranoid again? Again I couldn’t help thinking of all the reports about s*x education in primary school, increase in child p**nography, and how a lot of children face s**ual abuse nowadays. I was thinking of how I should teach her about all these stuff.
Was reminded of DIAG’s niece or some relative, young girl of 10 years old i think, yelling some foul word over the phone to me. I was appalled at how such a young girl would be able to learn such a word and at such a young age. But then again, when would be an ‘ok’ time for them to start scolding such words?
Had a discussion over a ‘formal lunch’ with 5 other ladies. YT mentioned about ‘giving away her kisses’ at a young age to relatives or friends in exchange for sweet treats. Then we discussed about manners in young kids. How you should teach kids from young about manners. Teach them to say “May I”, “Please” and “Thank you”. YT again recounted a story about her cousin, who upon seeing his dad return from a tennis game, went up to him and say, “Hello Daddy, how was your tennis game?” That was freaky lah! The boy’s only like 3 years or so, and he sounds like a robot already! Won’t most kids just yell that “Daddy’s home!!” and barrel towards their father? If you don’t teach the kids from young, they won’t behave or listen when they grow older. But if you instil such manners in them from young, then it makes it seem as though they are no longer kids and having fun. Also, if you wanna teach your kids manners, you gotta make sure you and your husband are polite and stuff in front of the kids so they don’t pick up any bad stuff from you. How to be lydat?!
The whole affair made me realised that kids are very difficult to raise. So many things to worry about. So many things to teach them. So difficult to explain to them the different matters that they should be aware of. Perhaps I should stick to my career and not think of having kids. I’ll leave that to..someone else? Shall just play with my neighbour’s or friends’ kids. Notice I did not mention my sis. Don’t think she is interested in kids too. Don’t want to think of my bro having kids since he’s still too young now! haha. Wait for amanda or zh to have kids lah! Play with some godson (i hope! haha) named Daryl ya? :tongue1 Maybe evie and M in 2 years time! haha :wink1